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Co-Parenting During the Coronavirus Pandemic

jenniferlking • December 6, 2020

During these unprecedented times with the coronavirus pandemic, many of our everyday practices and routines have drastically changed as we know them. With many pieces of information frequently presented on media platforms left and right, we hope that this post can clarify the new guidelines surrounding co-parenting during these times of uncertainty. While many things have changed, one thing has remained the same: the child’s best interest is the single most crucial parenting priority.

Necessary Health Precautions

Above all else, your child’s health and safety are of the utmost importance. When it comes to co-parenting with the Coronavirus as a factor in our lives, both you and your child’s other parent must communicate effectively about the necessary precautions that must be taken to protect the health of your child.

As usual, both you and your child’s other parent should stay updated with the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and other reliable sources for instructions regarding the prevention of COVID-19 contraction. Along with complying with these health precautions, both parents should try their best to model healthy habits for their children (i.e., washing hands frequently, wearing a mask, social distancing, etc.).

Should you or your child be found to have been exposed to or tested positive for the Coronavirus, both you and your child’s other parent should adhere to the advice of a doctor. You should follow the appropriate quarantine guidelines stated by the health officials of your county of residence. Suppose your child’s other parent desire visitation time during the period of strict quarantine. In that case, you should explain to them that it is in the child’s best interest to comply with the shelter-in-place guidelines as stated by your healthcare provider and/or county public health official. Your child’s other parent should be allowed to attend your child’s doctor appointments if doing so is not prohibited per a restraining order.

Suppose your child’s other parent has notified you that they have been exposed to or have tested positive for the Coronavirus. In that case, it is in the child’s best interest to reside with you until their healthcare provider has cleared your child’s other parent to go out in public and see individuals who do not live in the same location as them again.

As always, common sense is one of the best guides for co-parenting and protecting your child’s overall safety. Suppose in-person visitation is not feasible and should not be conducted to prevent the Coronavirus spread. In that case, it can always be administered virtually via videoconference or telephone instead.

Visitation

To provide stability and consistency in your child’s routine during these already uncertain times, continue to abide by the existing visitation schedule. However, if this is not possible due to either parents’ health factor or excessive distance in travel, visitation can be conducted remotely via videoconference or telephone.

Suppose the previously existing visitation agreement requires a meeting at an agreed-upon location. In that case, you and your child’s other parent should ensure that the site is available for exchange under concurrent health guidelines. Should the meeting place require a location change, meetings should be conducted in a large, outdoor area where social distance precautions can be met.

If the visitation arrangement that you and your child’s other parent have agreed upon requires an appointed supervisor that is currently unavailable for reasons related to COVID-19, you should find an alternative supervisor to ensure the well-being and safety of the child during the visitation period. Otherwise, visitation can be administered virtually via videoconference or telephone.

Communication is Key

It is essential that you and your child’s other parent attempt to agree on the measures of health precautions that you both will be taking. Communication to one another in such a manner that is informative and helpful rather than accusatory is critical.

While being open about the health precautions you are taking, refrain from asking your child about the health precautions being taken by their other parent at their place of residency—this will only increase the chances of involving your child in any disagreements regarding health precautions. Should any concerns arise, be open about them. Ideally, you and your child’s other parent should come up with a plan to abide by health regulations in a way that is equally safe and feasible for both sides. However, if this is not possible, visitation time cannot be denied to the secondary custodial parent by the primary custodial parent.

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